Important truths the average guy needs to understand if he wants a fulfilling marriage.
As a husband, you may sometimes feel like you don’t really understand where your wife is coming from nor do you always care to.
But you can be a better husband than that.
If you want a good marriage that’s happy and healthy, it’s time to step up.
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When you decide to marry someone, you are aware that married life is not perfect. You and your spouse are likely to argue at some point.
After the dust has settled from a recent argument and you’ve calmed down, ask yourself, “Do I really love my wife and want to make her happy?”
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If the answer is “yes,” then you must understand certain things in order to truly relate to her.
Here are 7 revelations a good husband must know in order to be a better husband and make his wife happy.
1. Your Wife Needs to Feel Loved
Even if you have the best marriage in the world, your wife will still need reassurance that you love her. Letting your wife feel loved is an expression of caring.
It lets her know you want her to feel secure, protected and comfort which are the vital ingredients of any healthy relationship and why she married you in the first place.
When your wife feels you love her, you, in essence, are saying to her, “You are important to me. I care about the problems you face in your life and I will be there when you need me.”
Feeling loved is the glue that holds a marriage together. Without it, your wife will feel totally alienated. With it, she becomes emotionally connected. She will feel terrific when she is loved and will feel terrible when there is not enough of it.
2. Women Feel Their Emotions, Deeply
Women deal with multiple thoughts and emotions that must be acknowledged. Acknowledging your wife’s emotions is a form of validation, according to coach and author Dr. Karen Hall.
Validation is the recognition and acceptance of another person’s thoughts, feelings, sensations, and behaviors as understandable.
3. You Need to Listen to Her
Even though you may feel like it’s hard for you to figure out your wife, you have to take your time to decipher what she is asking you.
You must tap into what lies underneath her words. The need for conversation is not met by simply talking to her.
By delving deeper into a conversation, you are in essence investigating her so give her your undivided attention.
4. She Craves Emotional Security
Her need for this type of security is so important that she will forgo some financial security to do it.
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5. Your Mr. Fix-It Gene Must Shut Down for a While
When your wife is really distressed, we usually have the tendency to want to jump in to save the day. But, in these cases, we need to just step back in listen.
Your wife feels very fulfilled when she is allowed to reveal her most private thoughts and you just stop and listen.
On the flip side, she will feel very frustrated if she has to hide her thoughts because she doesn’t want you to jump in and save the day every time.
6. Less Sex Doesn’t Equal Less Desirability
We know that we are usually the one that has the greater need for sex and this issue can create significant conflict.
That’s why it is very important for you to communicate your needs, as well as how often. Without that understanding, you are likely to not have your needs met.
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7. Her Beauty Lies in You, the Beholder, No Matter What
Your wife may be strong and independent in the boardroom and can hold down in the baby room, but what she wants, most of all, is to feel that she is and always will be “the one”.
Admiring her beauty is one of the easiest needs to meet. Just a word of appreciation and presto! You’ve made her day! On the other hand, it’s also easy to be critical.
Which would you prefer in order to make your wife truly happy?
This guest article was originally published on YourTango.com: 7 Essential Truths Men Need To Understand About Women In Order To Be A Better Husband.
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